News flash for my single ladies, if the title of this blog post: How to attract a loving relationship caught your attention it could be the reason you're still single. What I mean by that is; if you are constantly thinking about the fact you don't have a relationship, from a manifestation point of view, you are coming from a place of lack.
In essence you are sending a signal out to the universe that says: “I’m single” “I’m single” “I’m single”, when what you really want to say is: “I’m whole and complete” “I’m whole and complete” “I’m whole and complete”.
So how do you change your single signal to one that's whole and complete?
By learning to love yourself just as you are, while giving up the attachment of needing a man to complete you.
Or in the words of Samantha from SATC: "I've been in a relationship with myself for 49 years and that's the one I need to work on".
If you feel like your self-love muscle needs a workout then try incorporating these 2 practices into your daily routine.
Look at yourself in the mirror, stare into your eyes and say “I love you”. Notice that there is a greater part of you that exists beyond your physical body. When you start to develop a connection with your soul-self it will be easier for you to detach from your ego based thoughts and love yourself just as you are. **Warning: This exercise can feel incredibly awkward and uncomfortable. The harder it feels the greater the indication that you need to be doing it! Rest assured it will get easier over time.
Start writing a daily list of things you like about yourself. You may find this challenging to begin with but because what you focus on grows, in time your list will get bigger and the things you like will turn into things you love.
Remember: developing your capacity for self-love is an ongoing process. The more you work at it the more you will notice shifts starting to occur in your life.
When it comes to giving up the attachment of needing a man to complete you, the best way to do this is by spending time discovering what it is your soul really wants and then setting some inspiring goals to help you achieve it.
Maybe you have a desire to change careers, start a new business or get into the best shape of your life. Whatever it is, the fact that you are taking the focus off your relationship with “the one” and putting it on your relationship with yourself, means you are naturally going to feel more content.
When your energy is directed towards becoming the greatest version of yourself, rather than trying to find someone to complete you, when prince charming does show up you will both be two wholes coming together to celebrate and compliment each other. And this my beautiful friend, is the foundation of a long and successful relationship!
If you feel like you need help working on self-love, discovering what your soul desires or setting some inspiring goals, book in a time for a complimentary chat and we can talk about how coaching can help you.
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